Which is Weak- Love or Human Ability to Sustain With It?

Often I see and come across many stories. Each of them are more or less common in nature. Mostly stories begin with attraction and love, and end at indifference due to vanished love. So here’s my first question, “Is love so weak to vanish just like that?”

Undoubtedly if I were a love fairy, I’d rather defend saying that love is the most perpetual emotion and feeling in a human’s life, it just can’t vanish. Rather, human’s ability to handle and live with it is weak. I had this moment where a conflict of love fairy and hate fairy stuck my head. So, I’m going to put this together in a conversation that was happening in my mind.

Hate Fairy: See, I told you that Love is Weak. It makes a person weak and becomes painful for anyone.
Love Fairy: No dear, Love isn’t weak. The Human’s ability to live with it is weak.

Hate Fairy: Humans? They are the most intelligent and practical beings, how can they be weak?

Love Fairy: Let me explain- There’s a simple law of universe that you get what you give. Humans have the tendency to get attracted, fall in love and do most of the things at their convenience and pleasure. However, they don’t want to give anything in return. They want to experience love, care and affection. But, when it comes to giving, only a few amongst them are able to survive throughout their lives.

Rest you may see, how relationships are made for selfness. Humans have chosen selfness over selflessness. The ability to be kind and considerate is vanishing.

Hate Fairy: So where’s the weakness? I see only a problem.!

Love Fairy: Do you know that selfness is a weakness which makes a person lonely. A selfish person cannot live happily and can’t keep other around him happy. Though it is likely that he expects someone to please him, but naturally that’s called “using someone at your service emotionally”.

Hate Fairy: Yeah, so what’s bad about it? I mean how does love makes a difference anyway? Love demands too much..!

Love Fairy: If it demands, then it’s simply an expectation. Love is unconditional. It’s like you’re always ready to do anything despite any situation.

Love doesn’t makes you weak, it rather strengthens your bond. It is not supposed to be a give & take business. It is supposed to contain compassion, kindness, affection, and caring attitude. And Hate tell me how many humans today contain all of these emotions?

Hate Fairy: I’m not too sure. But why does love vanishes?

Love Fairy: When the reason behind the so called expectations aren’t fulfilled. One with expectations becomes the dominant. And you already know, if the dominant isn’t pleased, he cannot survive in a relationship.

Hate Fairy: Ah that made sense.! So if humans are emotionally weak, then how come they’ve sustained throughout so many generations?

Love Fairy: Out of necessity. There’s been a necessity of genesis and reproduction throughout the mankind.

Hate Fairy: I hate to say but I’m logically convinced.

It was really pathetic for me to settle upon this conclusion. Only a few hours ago, I had an experience of vanished love. One of my close friends has a dog and he is a crazy dog-lover. We were having a conversation about how expenses should be managed, and he was like, “I want to throw this dog out. He has literally ruined my life. It’s very difficult to bear his expenses.”

That was the most shocking thing for me. I interrupted him saying, “Where’s your love for this creature now? All this time you’ve been only bragging about how much you love your dog?? You don’t even care about the fact how would it feel when you’ll abandon him. Imagine, yourself being abandoned by your parents as a kid, how would you feel then?”

It was at this time he mellowed and realized what he just did. After this instance, I have obviously thought of keeping a realty check on his dog, because I can’t trust what he would do to him. However, my purpose of narrating this story was to show how love vanishes.

Our needs and necessities dominate us to an extent that we tend cheat on those who love us unconditionally. Having lost my grandmother and father four years ago, made me realize the true value of love and the way I on cheated them. Though, I’m blessed with a baby retriever, whom I love more than my life.

I don’t think I can ever cheat on anyone with love.

I hope after reading this, you would avoid to cheat on anyone with Love.

Let me know what you think of this..!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Fear- Is that Something We are Imbibing in the Generations to Come?

Fear is the most hated word in my dictionary. I usually don’t speak my mind in reality, but sometimes when it comes to speaking up, I don’t hold it inside my head. So here’s something that I would like to bring out.

You may agree or disagree, but the so-called generation Z that we’re raising or growing up with is going to be the most coward generation. Shocking isn’t it? Might find it a very pseudo-intellectual statement.!

But, I believe there are very small things through which I can prove this.

I live in a modern urbanized township, where high class, middle class families reside. Since, I’ve had a very disturbed childhood and teenage, so I’m usually a keen observer of parents with children. I’m a dogging mom, but still very warm towards kids.

Usually when I have to go out and take my little girl Snoopy for a walk, I have to use an elevator. In my building, only 4 families are dog owners. Usually when Snoopy gets into the elevator, the other people standing feel very uncomfortable. If there are parents travelling with kids, then they’ll advise their kids,”Hey look, Doggy. Stay Away, or it will bite.” This is the most common warning and lesson that you can see parents giving to their kids. No matter the kid is an infant or grown up 80% Indian parents are over-protective and imbibe this lesson in the mind of their kids.

I mean how the hell a small domestic dog and that too chained with a harness can even think about attacking? Now where’s that ultra common-sense of these so-called parents? This means from a very early age most of the children are taught to be afraid of dogs, else they’ll bite. Why would an animal bite unnecessarily without a purpose? Till they’re harassed or bothered, no animal can harm human beings. I would take man-eaters and cannibals as an exception though.

Another thing that I have seen very common among Indian families is imposing every decision on their kids. Trust me, I have seen mothers dragging their kids in fancy outfits in the marketplace, and the kid sobbing like anything. For urban mothers, kids have become a style statement. They’ll pull them wherever they want and the kid suffers through a certain traumatic situation. Don’t they know that kids develop their intellect at the age of 5 years and understand how parents treat them.

From an early age to adulthood, parents want to control all necessary decisions for their kids to an extent that marriage in India has become a profitable business for brokers. Parents want to control their children’s education, hobbies, career, marriage and even their life. This superimposition further leads to kids becoming dumb at an adult age. I have seen practical examples. I work in a multi-cultural workplace, and trust me they’re crushed brutally within the society for their coward and indecisive attitude.

Since, parents throughout the upbringing of their kids don’t give them any chance to take any decisions or responsibility. The result, you can see 6 out of 10 kids in India cannot decide whether to opt for Arts, Science, or Commerce after 10th Grade. A high school passed teenager doesn’t possess enough capability to decide a career for himself. A graduate doesn’t know what job he would fit in. Atleast, 15 years of a kid’s life is wasted, in which he could have been nurtured like a precious tree. Parents of today want to reap the benefits of the fruit, but don’t want to invest the real wisdom in raising their children like precious trees. Yet they have endless expectations. What an irony.!

I’m not sure if I can bring any change at all. I can’t change the society, but I can atleast change myself, and avoid being over-protective about my kid. I’d rather as a parent allow my kid to explore the world out there, if he wants to. From an early age, I’ll give him charge of his own life, so that one day he becomes responsible by learning from his experiences. If my own mother would read this post, she’ll definitely say that I’m going to be an irresponsible mother. But, trust me this will definitely help me in testing the capabilities and limitations of my kid.

I want him to fly as high as he wants to, no matter what the world is like. I want to raise a strong and independent child.